If you have children and you believe divorce is in the near future, you are probably worried how they will handle it. Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but you can help your children make sense of what is happening and reduce the amount of emotional drama as much as possible.
One of the most important decisions to be made in your divorce is what type of child custody arrangement you and your spouse will have. If possible, you should think about arranging shared custody. This will help your children settle into their new routines quicker. You should also try to agree on a certain parenting style or find a way to avoid undermining each other with the children. If you are comfortable with the arrangement, your children will sense it and feel more comfortable with it.
It is important to understand that staying together for your children is rarely a good idea. If you think that staying together will keep your kids happy, you are ignoring the fact that your children can sense that things are not good. Living in an unhappy home can be just as damaging, if not more, than divorce. Your children want you to be honest with them, so help them understand the situation and focus on your love for them.
Finally, it is important to pay attention to how your divorce is impacting your children. If their performance at school begins to suffer or they are becoming depressed, you should take action. Spend as much time as possible listening to your kids. Just knowing that both parents are interested in them and making them the top priority will help your children adjust better.