When your divorce must go before a judge to be resolved, it can be nerve-wracking. Most clients worry about the attorneys, judges and many other things that are out of their control. The one thing you can have some control over, however, is yourself. Below are a few considerations:
- The more prepared you are, the more comfortable you will feel. Don’t make the mistake of thinking your attorney must do all the preparation and all you have to do is show up. You must review your documentation and have the facts straight in your mind.
- It is important to be flexible. While you and your lawyer will have a strategy for your case, things can change. Again, if you have read over all of your paperwork, including the pleadings filed by your attorney and your spouse’s attorney, it is unlikely that you will be surprised.
- One of the most difficult things about divorce is keeping your emotions in check. It is normal to feel afraid, stressed and emotional, but you cannot let these feelings take over your thought process. While you are in court, try to be factual and logical. When your attorney asks you to make choices, strive to keep your unhealthy emotions out of it.
- You must tell the truth, even if your spouse does not. You will obviously want to set the record straight and tell your side of the story, but don’t be tempted to start stretching the truth yourself. A family judge has typically seen and heard it all, so he or she knows when something sounds credible and when it does not. Let your spouse dig herself into a hole if she wants, but do the right thing and be honest.
Everyone who goes through divorce feels hurt, uncomfortable, angry and a variety of other emotions at some point during the process. An experienced divorce lawyer understands and will be there for you.
If you need assistance with your divorce, contact the Men’s Divorce Law Firm today. Our approach to family law is quite simple: we listen to you; we return your calls promptly; we keep you prepared and informed; we respect your time; we understand your concerns; and, most importantly, we care.