What is Lost & Gained by Divorce

When you are going through a divorce, it is easy to focus on what you are losing. However, in an article by Brittany Wong posted on the Huffington Post website, their bloggers and readers answered the question of “[w]hat’s one thing you lost in your divorce — and what’s one thing you gained?” Below are a few of our favorite responses and a few additional quotes we added to the list:

“Divorces are made in heaven.” — Oscar Wilde

“I married Miss Right. I just didn’t know her first name was Always.” — Unknown

“I lost financially in my divorce. But I gained emotionally. I got myself back: My self-confidence, self-respect and a fresh start.” — Jenny Kanevsky 

“I lost a house, a family member and so-called friends. I gained self-love, clarity and the ability to be me without having to walk on eggshells.” — Kara Rachelle Pickering

“Ah, yes, divorce . . . from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.” — Robin Williams

“I lost my first love in my divorce. I gained the chance for a forever love.” — Laura Lifshitz

“I lost family and friends who chose to judge rather than ask me why. I gained the benefit of knowing who truly supported and loved me unconditionally and the freedom to build my own version of a happy, healthy home for me and my kids.” — Tyler Wimberly Castleman

“There’s nothing like a family crisis, especially a divorce, to force a person to re-evaluate his life.” — Michael Douglas

“I lost the security of being a traditional family unit in my divorce. But I gained independence, self-esteem and happiness in an unexpected way.” — Jackie Pilossoph

“I lost my boat, my truck and my home. I gained my beautiful, strong daughter.” — Paul Can’tu

“I lost my place at the table in my divorce. But I gained my place in the world. It wasn’t until after I left, and was alone, on my own, that I stopped to think: Who am I? What was it I wanted to do with my life? What made me happy? That’s when life started over and realized I had dreams and ambition. I could make my mark.”  —Marie Forster

“Whoever said Marriage is a 50-50 proposition laid the foundation for more divorce fees than any other short sentence in our language.” — Austin Elliot

“She cried—and the judge wiped her tears with my checkbook.” — Tommy Manville

“I lost a lot of money but I gained my sanity.” — MaryAnn Lamb

“I lost my husband in my divorce. But I gained a friend, ally and co-parent.” — Pamela Smith

“Americans, who make more of marrying for love than any other people, also break up more of their marriages, but the figure reflects not so much the failure of love as the determination of people not to live without it.” — Morton Hunt

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