The best way to handle difficult situations like a divorce or custody battle is to remember that it will eventually end. It will help you keep calm and focused on the goal: moving on with your life!
But thoughts need more than a little attention to help them along. There are actions that you can apply throughout your divorce that will help speed it up as quickly as possible to its final destination.
Be Thorough in the Beginning
You can copy and paste your favorite saying about how a few minutes invested early can save years down the road. That notion applies to everything from child rearing to saving for retirement and everywhere in between.
When you schedule your consultation, listen carefully so you can hear all of the recommended documents to bring. Make a list. And don’t be afraid to ask the person setting your appointment if there is anything else you should bring.
It’s not rocket science or even equitable estoppel. If your attorneys don’t have the files, they can’t work on them. Plus, it will ensure that both of you can discuss every account or concern you have. This will help your attorney build the overall strategy and gain a sense of your priorities.
Be Honest with Your Attorney
You’d be surprised how many people need this reminder.
Your attorney is there because you hired him or her. They aren’t there to judge you. They are there, however, to make sure you get the best outcome possible, and they can’t do that unless you are honest about what is important to you.
Trust us. It’s our job!
Keep your Focus on Resolution
Lastly, keep the opening lines of this post firmly settled in your mind. There are better days ahead, but you have to forge through some difficult ones to get there. Unfortunately, it’s easy to get lost along the way.
However, if you have been honest and thorough with your attorney, there will be a clear system in place for valuing each outcome. You won’t get caught up in an unnecessary, time-consuming and costly argument about the painting that you never even liked. You’ll know where it ranks in importance and will keep marching steadily toward your new life.