Is it Time for you to Divorce?
Even under the best of circumstances, divorce is difficult for everyone involved. However, if you talk to somebody who was in a very unhappy marriage, they don’t regret getting their divorce. Whether the relationship was abusive, dysfunctional or simply not what you wanted out of life anymore, moving forward in separate directions is the most positive thing for the family.
According to an article in the Huffington Post by Lorraine C. Ladish, below are a few things that help you determine whether you should proceed with a divorce or whether you did the right thing be getting one:
• Give it your best, and then move on. You don’t want to look back and regret not trying to make your marriage work. However, if you have given it your all and it still “sucks the life out of you and your partner,” the marriage is over and you need to move on.
• You aren’t yourself around your spouse. If a side of you that you don’t like appears when you are around your spouse, something is wrong. If you are typically happy and carefree, but you are depressed when you are around your spouse, it is time to consider divorce. This is also true if your spouse is not herself around you. If you see that she appears to be a totally different person when she is around other people than she is with you, it should be a red flag.
• You can find love again. Don’t stay in an unhappy marriage simply because you are afraid you will be alone for the rest of your life. Dating after divorce can be difficult, particularly if you have children, but it can also lead you to a wonderful person that is right for you. The same is true for your spouse. There may be somebody else out there that will adore all the things about her that drive you crazy!
• Let your divorce improve you. Many people are surprised at how they feel when the burden of their unhappy marriage is lifted from them. They may start exercising, eating healthy and pursuing their hobbies again. Without the stress and fighting, life can look pretty great.
• Understand that kids are resilient. If you and your spouse work to keep your relationship amicable and focus on putting your children’s best interests first, you might be surprised at how well your kids can adjust to divorce.
Whether your divorce is amicable or full of disputes, we are here to help. Contact the knowledgeable attorneys at the Men’s Divorce Law Firm. Our office is located in Orlando, Florida, but we proudly serve husbands and fathers across the State. The firm also serves men out of state with child custody interests in Florida.