Splitting the Chores or Splitting Up

A recent survey of over 1,200 mothers by ForbesWoman and the pregnancy website TheBump.com has shown that most women feel that their partners don’t engage in their fair share of childcare or chores.  How can splitting the chores help prevent a couple from splitting up?

Despite women being the ones to express discontent they also, ironically, face difficulty when it comes to passing on the chores to their partners.  Two of three women surveyed said the inequitable balance of parenting powers makes them resent their partners, yet juggling all the domestic duties feels like something they’re obligated to do.

“It’s literally ingrained in most of us to want to be Super Moms, and that feeling is so often compounded in working moms, who feel the added guilt of being away from their children for a number of hours each day to begin with,” Carley Roney, editor-in-chief of TheBump.com, told ForbesWoman. “When they have the chance to be a mommy, to give up any control can be quite painful.”

But, the need to relinquish that control is becoming clearer and clearer.  The survey revealed that 92% of working moms and 89% of their stay-at-home (SAHM) sisters report feeling overwhelmed by the demands of work, maintaining a household and parenting, prompting more than 60% to say they feel like they’re piloting the parenting plane solo.

The benefits of splitting the workload extend beyond pleasing the woman in such a union.  Splitting the chores and managing the relationship better overall can lead to more time, better sex, and an overall happier marriage.  ABC reports:

The research shows that it is in the best interest of both parties to split the work between the partners in a relationship in a manner that suits each person best.  While every couple has their own formula that works for them it is always good to lower the possibility or lessen the climate of resentment in any relationship and improve the areas which make function relationships work.

Jeffrey Feulner and the Men’s Divorce Law Firm encourage all couples to work together to settle their marital difficulties.  However, we realize this does not always happen as clean-cut or as smoothly as one would like, in such instances we are here to help.