Life after divorce has its ups and downs. When you walk into your home, you can take pride in knowing that it is all yours – paid by you and decorated by you. However, you may also feel a small sense of sadness because nobody is there to appreciate it with you.
The same thing is true when somebody comments on how cute your children are or you see them do something that is hilarious or touching. You want to share that moment with somebody. You miss having your spouse to share the stories with. While it is still wonderful to have your children pile into bed with you on a Saturday morning, you can’t help but feel that there is a piece that is missing.
This is what it is like to raise your children alone after divorce. It is difficult and challenging, but wonderful and rewarding all at the same time. You will discover that even simple tasks can be ridiculously challenging to do with your kids because you no longer have that extra set of hands to help. For instance, getting everyone dressed, out of the house, and into the car so you are no more than 10 minutes late to wherever you are going.
You may think you will handle all errands when your children are visiting with their mother, but life doesn’t always go according to plans. Besides, you will have this urge to prove that you actually CAN do it all alone, even though you know it will be hard.
When it is all said and done, you know you likely won’t be alone forever. However, until that day, you have to stay strong. You may not have somebody there to assure you that you’re a good parent or to console you after a difficult day, but you have children that rely on you and see you as their “rock.” So, it is okay to admit that it is hard to be a single parent, but it is necessary to dig deep and do what must be done.
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