Top 10 Tips for Dealing with Divorce Stress

Divorce is stressful.  It is no surprise that going through a divorce can affect the mental and physical health of the parties involved.  In many cases, emotions are brought to the surface negatively impacting one’s outlook on life and their self image.  While there is no full proof way to maintain physical and well being during this potentially traumatic experience, below are some tips on how to manage the stress that many feel during this life-altering time.

1. Recognize and manage your emotional needs.

Find a good support group. The company and support of others who are going through a similar event may help you process the difficult emotions you are feeling. Talking with others about their feelings is often one of the best therapies available to someone going through a divorce. The point: you are not alone and there are many people out there to help you through this tough time.

2. Become physically active.

Exercising and staying active is the second most relieving task to help manage your stress levels. It will help you become less tense, angry, and upset, and also releases natural chemicals in your body to help balance your mood. If you are feeling a lot of tension or anger, look into classes such as boxing, where you are free to release the energy in a safe and comfortable way.

3. Don’t dwell on what is beyond your control.

In all cases, there are many things that are simply beyond you or your Attorney’s control. When you find yourself in situations beyond your control, the best advice is to simply let go. Take a deep breathe and commit yourself to whatever will be.  Dwelling on things beyond your control will only increase your stress and anxiety levels which may cause you to become distracted from issues that are still at hand. Focus on the present and move on from the past.

4. Lower your expectations.

Divorces can be extremely complex. There are up and downs and you may at times feel like you are riding a traumatic roller coaster. Nothing is set in stone until the divorce is final. While one should not strive to be pessimistic in everyday life, during a divorce, the best approach is to expect the least and hope for the best. If you prepare yourself for the worst-case scenario, you will be more equipped to handle the end result.

5. Don’t make decisions on a whim.

Events may occur during a divorce where you feel you need to make an immediate decision, especially if you find yourself in a highly stressful situation. During these times, it is best to keep in mind that any decisions or actions taken can directly affect the outcome of the case. The best advice is to talk with your attorney or seek professional help to assist you in managing these feelings before you make an ultimate decision.  While the eagerness to close this chapter of your life and move on is understandable, keep in mind that you may have to live with the outcome of your divorce forever.

6. Let yourself take in your emotions.

Throughout the entire process, you will feel both positive and negative emotions. Every decision you make during this time can potentially affect the outcome of your divorce. Avoid substance abuse while dealing with these emotions as it will only make the emotions stronger and more unbalanced. Don’t allow your emotions to control your life or the decisions you make; however, be sure to understand that what you are feeling is normal and learn how to manage those feelings.

7. Distract yourself.

Overcome these tough times by finding a hobby or activity that will help to distract you. Some ideas are reading a good book, joining a local sports team, relaxing with a massage, cooking, or getting involved in community events.

8. Have some fun!

Remember that laughter is the best medicine. Get involved with people and activities that you enjoy and have fun doing. Go out with friends, watch a funny movie, take your kids to the park, or spend some time with family.

9. Heal.

No one expects you to be able to jump right back into the swing of things after a divorce. Give yourself the proper amount of time to heal and focus on yourself. Forgive yourself and others for mistakes that may have led to the divorce, and use what you learned to make good judgments in future relationships.

10. Focus on the future!

There is a reason that everything happens. Whatever the reasons may be that led you to this point in your life, take those learning experiences and apply them. Make your future what you want it to be! Focus on something new. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do but maybe weren’t able to accomplish for reasons that were then beyond your control. Your life is what you make it, so make it about you!